Sometimes things have to hit rock bottom before they can get better. Not this time, though. Things are already much better than they were a couple of days ago. I thought a lot would change in a short period of time, but it really didn't. I though things were going to get really bad and people were going to have a nice big whine to me about how in the wrong I am, but they didn't. The opposite happened. Things got better very fast and people started coming up to me and agreeing with me. It shows that I am actually doing the right thing for once. This is weird.
I am so used to "I can't believe you said that!" that when people tell me they agree with what I say, it freaks me out a little. But this is a good thing. It shows that I made an effort and I can't change what other people do. This time, I've quickly accepted that there's nothing I can do about rude people around me apart from simply stepping away. I can't make people grow up. This is not my loss. I've actually gained a good friend out of this and managed to cut some tumours that were hanging around in the process. I know tumours come back sometimes, but I'm allowed to hope for the best.
I know I am not the only one who managed to cut these tumours out. This has actually helped at least a handful of people move on, even if they weren't directly involved. So I think I did the right thing. I mean, if it means I made someone's life a little bit better, that's all that matters. Even if friendships had to be sacrificed in the process.
Friends aren't rude to each other. Friends make an effort. Friends listen to what you have to say. Friends are there in the good and in the bad. Friends will ask you how you are and not only expect you to ask them. Friends will appreciate when you make an effort to like their friends. Friends try to be nice to your friends, even when they don't like them or are jealous. Friends don't drag you into the middle of a fight that is beyond your control. Friends don't use you to get back to other people. Friends know boundaries.
Sometimes it takes years to realise that someone was never truly your friend, that they never really cared about what you have to say. Those years weren't wasted, they helped. There's always learning that can happen from other people being bad to you, even if you don't believe in the beginning.
I know this is a good thing that happened to me and I know my life will be better now. But at the same time, I know other people don't move on this quickly. But I'll be here to help them in the process, because that is what friends do.
I am so used to "I can't believe you said that!" that when people tell me they agree with what I say, it freaks me out a little. But this is a good thing. It shows that I made an effort and I can't change what other people do. This time, I've quickly accepted that there's nothing I can do about rude people around me apart from simply stepping away. I can't make people grow up. This is not my loss. I've actually gained a good friend out of this and managed to cut some tumours that were hanging around in the process. I know tumours come back sometimes, but I'm allowed to hope for the best.
I know I am not the only one who managed to cut these tumours out. This has actually helped at least a handful of people move on, even if they weren't directly involved. So I think I did the right thing. I mean, if it means I made someone's life a little bit better, that's all that matters. Even if friendships had to be sacrificed in the process.
Friends aren't rude to each other. Friends make an effort. Friends listen to what you have to say. Friends are there in the good and in the bad. Friends will ask you how you are and not only expect you to ask them. Friends will appreciate when you make an effort to like their friends. Friends try to be nice to your friends, even when they don't like them or are jealous. Friends don't drag you into the middle of a fight that is beyond your control. Friends don't use you to get back to other people. Friends know boundaries.
Sometimes it takes years to realise that someone was never truly your friend, that they never really cared about what you have to say. Those years weren't wasted, they helped. There's always learning that can happen from other people being bad to you, even if you don't believe in the beginning.
I know this is a good thing that happened to me and I know my life will be better now. But at the same time, I know other people don't move on this quickly. But I'll be here to help them in the process, because that is what friends do.
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